ہم کیا چاہتے ہیں ... ایلن واٹس کی تھیوری کا مفہوم

ہمیں دنیا میں کیا کرنا ہے، کیا بننا ہے، کون سا پیشہ اپنانا ہے. یہ سب ہم اپنے والدین یا بڑوں سے سیکھتے ہیں، کیریئر کونسلنگ ایک بہت وسیع فیلڈ ہے اور ہر انسان کی ضرورت ہے، ہمارے ملک پاکستان میں کیریئر کونسلرز کی بہت قلّت ہے جبکہ باہر کے ممالک میں یہ ایک مستقل پیشہ ہے اور بہت سے افراد اس دے استفادہ کرتے ہیں. ایک کیریئر کونسلر کسی بھی شخص کی شخصیت کا جائزہ لینے کے بعد یہ مشورہ دے سکتا ہے اس کے لئے کون سا پیشہ ٹھیک رہے گا، بالخصوص اس بات پر توجہ دی جاتی ہے کہ اس شخص کا شوق کیا ہے. وہ کون سا پیشہ ہے جس میں جانے کے بعد مذکورہ شخص کامیابی کی منازل طے کرسکتا ہے.

ایلن واٹس ایک مشہور فلسفی ہے، کہتا ہے کہ میرے پاس اکثر طلباء آتے ہیں اور پوچھتے ہیں کہ ہم کالج سے فارغ ہورہے ہیں اور ہمیں ذرا بھی اندازہ نہیں کہ ہمیں کس پیشے سے منسلک ہوںا چاہیے، تو میرا ہمیشہ ان سے سوال ہوتا ہے کہ "تم" کیا کرنا چاہتے ہو، تمہارا شوق کیا ہے. جس پر مجھے کافی دلچسپ جواب ملتے ہیں کہ ہم لکھاری بننا چاہتے ہیں، مصور بننا چاہتے ہیں لیکن اس طرح پیسہ کمانا مشکل ہے. جب ہم ایک نکتہ پر پہنچ جاتے ہیں جہاں ایک شخص یہ کہتا ہے کہ میں یہ خاص کام کرنا چاہتا ہوں تو میں اس سے کہتا ہوں کہ تم وہی کرو. جیسے ایک شخص نے کہا کہ اسےباہر کی زندگی (آؤٹ ڈور لائف) پسند ہے اور گھڑ سواری کا شوق ہے، تو میں نے کہا کہ تم ایک گھڑ سواری کے اسکول میں استاد بن سکتے ہو. کیوں کہ ایک شخص کا جو شوق ہو تو وہ اپنے اس شوق اور جنون کی حد تک کی لگن کے باعث اس کام کا چیمپئن بن جاتا ہے. کسی بھی کام میں استادی کیلئے ضروری ہے کہ آپ اس کا شوق رکھتے ہوں اور ایک بار جب آپ اس شوق میں ڈوب جائیں اور اس کام میں ایکسپرٹ (تجربہ کار) ہوجائیں تو پھر لوگ اس کام کو سیکھنے یا اس کام کو آپ سے کروانے کیلئے منہ مانگی فیس دینے پر راضی ہونگے اور اس طرح آپ اپنے شوق کو پیشہ میں تبدیل کرسکتے ہیں.

لیکن دوسری جانب ہم دراصل کر کیا رہے ہیں ہم ساری زندگی وہ کام کرتے رہتے ہیں جس کا ہمیں شوق نہیں ہوتا اور جب گھر آتے ہیں تو تھکن سے چور اور اگلے دن جانے سے بیزار لیکن جانا تو پڑتا ہے. اس ہی بیزاری کی وجہ سے ہم اس کام میں ترقی نہیں کرسکتے. ہم ساری زندگی اس ہی طرح غیر مطمئن زندگی گزار دیتے ہیں اور اپنے آنے والی نسلوں کی بھی تربیت اس ہی طرز پر کرتے ہیں تاکہ وہ اپنے آنے والی نسلوں کو بھی یہی طرز عمل دے کر جائیں، اور اپنے کئے ہوئے عمل کو صحیح ثابت کرسکیں لیکن ہم جانتے ہیں ہم وہ نہیں کررہے جو ہم چاہتے ہیں. اور اس ہی لئے یہ سوال بہت معنی رکھتا ہے کہ "ہم کیا چاہتے ہیں".

ابنِ سیّد

Having a Bad Day: Who is Responsible ?

Monday morning you wake up, its 7 am and you have to leave your house at 8:00 am to reach work on time at exact 8:30 am. A nice schedule, your office dress is already pressed, get in the washroom out in 5 minutes, go to the kitchen you put the kettle on the oven and prepared some tea, while tea is going to be ready you are putting butter on the bread, get the tea, take a refreshing sip, its 7:30 am and almost the breakfast is over, relax, switch on the laptop and check your emails and social networking updates. See the news headlines, it’s almost few minutes to 8:00 am, say bye to your parents if they are awake, give them a sweet smile, it’s the way to heaven. Start the car/bike, move on the road, the traffic is normal, the day is shiny, no worries, you reached the work 10 minutes before the time, greet everyone with a smile, good day ahead.

Monday morning you wake up, OMG its 7:35 am, went to the washroom, someone’s already in, now you are knocking on the door, requesting them to come out, as soon as its vacant you go in, its 7:45 am, you come out, very well, your cloths aren’t ready! Aarghhhhhh… you put on the old stuff, move on you come to see if you can take some breakfast, no butter no bread, well tea is enough though, while you are busy with tea its 5 minutes past 8:00 am, now you are getting real annoyed, you think about the consequences you are going to face in the office today, you start shouting at the siblings and parents, quarrelling, you feel sad but no time left  to say sorry you are in a hurry, you come outside, the car/bike do malfunctioning, kick it so hard, run towards the bus stop, you are all sweaty and dirty, in the bus had a quarrel with the passengers, enter the office showing angry face to everyone, bad luck for the rest of the day.

Who made your day a bad one? Is it the situation?  Or is it your own actions? What we should do when we encounter such problem, most of the time we get annoyed and confused and thus mess up rest of the day, due to one incident all our things gone bad, the right thing to do is don’t get upset. Remain confident and try to cover up the things in correct way, if the first thing gone wrong, ok, try to do the rest of things according to the plan, so at the end of the day you will be satisfied. No one is perfect; in order to perform perfectly you have to work hard without getting annoyed and stressed! 

Economic Crisis & Reforms - By Syed Burhan Uddin

Last week I called my friend and asked him hows life going and hows everything, and I was shocked when he told me that he has resigned.
Yesterday I called my sister and I asked her about her family and in-laws and again I was shocked because her family member has resigned. Two, three years back same thing happened when my friend resigned from his job, all these three are at home.
So, in 18 crore at least these 3 are in my knowledge that are jobless with good skills but all 3 lack One important quality/skill.
That skill i don't know why is not taught in any school/university or any other skill development institute. Yesterday I was watching the program "Kal Tak" and Mr. Javed Chaudhry was counting the ministries in our cabinet and One was Ministry of Skill Development. I think Minister for skill development is the most suitable person to ask the question why they why they are not able to teach that One skill, because that One skill is better then any degree, education, study.
That is in simple words called as POLISH, TC, UTHANA, etc, everybody has kept their own words as per their environment.
You know, these 3 person were earning around Rs. 3 lac per month as a total, still they left the job, in these days when there is no new job in the market, prices are going higher & higher and at this stage one wonders why a person leaves such a good job. The answer is these three idiots don't have that One skill.
The good thing is all 3 are Postgraduate in good subjects. Now imagine 16/17 years of education and they have missed that 1 subject? Not a single teacher was that visionary in their 16 years of education who could have taught them that skill?
Because of this One subject not only these three, there are thousands of our skilled persons are jobless and are of no use to this country and to their families. These people are like "Dharti Per Bojh", good for nothing, they are not contributing in national economic structure for a long time but the life is going on and hence the economic situation of the country is going worst because many skilled people are sitting idle.
As there is a wind of MINISTRY MINISTRY these days in the country, daily we see a new minister for a new field, the nation is going down, country is going nowhere and daily we are getting new ministers, I have an idea for the President/PM, Why not they make a separate ministry by the name of "TC MINISTRY".
The best candidate for this ministry as I see is Babar Awan, he is a "Doctor", sitting idle these days, he can lead this thing very well, and the job of this ministry will be to give education of TC to every single student who is in university and going to the market for job hunt.
The ministry has to take a lead and make/develop such plans/institutions to educate/design the education system in such a way that the student when ready for job market, he is a perfect TC guy. Whether he has other skills or not but he must be a TC Master, because this is the only skill that is going to help the country in these economic crisis.

If we look at the reason why the mentioned 3 persons resigned/left their jobs we will see that the reason are these people themselves. If they are not able to POLISH their boss, this is their mistake. Its not the job of a BOSS to do what he want. Its the job of the subordinate to handle his BOSS in such a way that the Job is done by some other colleague and BOSS is happy with you, and this is only possible when you are a good TC master and this skill will be developed under TC MINISTRY in near future. Yes for instance some people can say that why we get that skill, why not the BOSS get some "Manners" and "Good Behavior", here is the answer to those idiots.

A person when becomes your boss, he is more experienced, more visionary and has seen the world more then his subordinates, this mean he has more experience in this world. Now when a person has spent more time in this world than you, and his parents were not able to teach him the required "Manners", who are you and me to teach them? And now this is not the time to teach them the manners.
As I got a German shepherd last year and he was of 3 months, the shopkeeper told me to hire a teacher for him now to teach it the manners, I said why not after 6 months or later.
He said "Sir, baby learns faster and in a mature age DOGS don't learn, they just do what they have got"! Now look at the impact due to some untrained DOGS on the economy of the country.

1. Many skilled resources are jobless.
2. Many families are still hungry.
3. Many jobless people joins terrorism or any other negative activity.

All such points are due to 2 people.

1. One who have grown up with bad manners from home.
2. People who are not able to bend and they are broken.

The easy way out is:

1. TC ministry
2. Bend a little

But, Bending down will not be for a long term, and the TC ministry will help you for a long time. The point is that the TC ministry should work properly, not like President Zardari.

Pakistan Zindabad.

Note: The writer is a Telecom professional / Software Engineer and a political activist.